Real talk. When’s the last time you’ve questioned yourself, or felt a little insecure? Whether it was five minutes ago or five weeks ago, we all know the feeling of being consumed by a seemingly endless spiral of self-doubt. Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about how we all define self-worth, and why we can sometimes be so hard on ourselves. After pillaging the depths of the internet and having plenty of conversations, I’ve come up with a few ways to reframe how we think about our self-worth and boost our self-esteems…
1. Reattribute and relax
Have you ever gotten bad vibes from someone and then immediately started to question what you did wrong or why they didn’t like you? Let’s say your new boss was a little short with you when you asked him or her a question. You’d probably feel like a disappointment right and then and there, but would you have stopped to really consider the fact that they might just be stressed about something else? I’m in no way advocating for people to use their stressors as a cop-out, but for the sake of thinking of considering our self-esteems, we have to acknowledge that this happens fairly often.
I’m sure we’ve all heard of “helper’s high” before. It’s a term used to describe the feeling of euphoria that we experience after doing a good deed. Helpers high not only brings a rush of endorphins, but also puts our character into perspective and impacts the way we view ourselves. Being altruistic serves as a reminder of our inherent good nature. You don’t have to commit a lot of your time or energy to experience the benefits of being altruistic either! Some of the most effective practices include complimenting someone or simply smiling. So go out there and show some kindness…as much as you’ll be helping others, you’ll also be helping your self-esteem!
I know that there are times when it feels like your self-esteem is taking hits left and right nonstop. We all go through it. Sometimes we just need to lovingly nudge ourselves to remember how great we are!